{"id":11216,"date":"2020-05-11T12:31:21","date_gmt":"2020-05-11T18:31:21","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.reliefsocietywomen.com\/blog\/?p=11216"},"modified":"2020-05-11T12:31:21","modified_gmt":"2020-05-11T18:31:21","slug":"guilt-free-mothering","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.reliefsocietywomen.com\/blog\/2020\/05\/11\/guilt-free-mothering\/","title":{"rendered":"Guilt-Free Mothering"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">I\u2019ve had an influx of thoughts pointing to one main idea this weekend. Mother\u2019s Day, of course, gets us thinking about mothers. This week\u2019s General Conference Odyssey post covers the last session of <a href=\"https:\/\/www.churchofjesuschrist.org\/general-conference\/1988\/04?lang=eng\">April 1988<\/a>, where two talks focus on mothering. And this week\u2019s reading of Abinadi and King Noah finds me thinking about their mothers. On top of that, I am reminded to not feel guilty about my own personal mothering. So, bear with me as I sort through all these thoughts.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Personally, Mother\u2019s Day has never been my favorite day. I raised six kids and even though they\u2019re all great adults, I wonder sometimes where I went wrong. My ward sent out chocolate bars that specifically announced, \u201cno calories!\u201d Somehow, the self-accusation of general mothering is covered and washed away in guilt-free chocolate.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">General Conference Talks<\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.churchofjesuschrist.org\/study\/general-conference\/1988\/04\/daughter-of-god?lang=eng\">Elder Yoshihiko Kikuchi<\/a> speaks on women as daughters of God. I think he is the first General Authority who cried at the pulpit. He was very tender hearted and I\u2019m sure his tears fell as he spoke of honoring such lovely and special daughters of our Heavenly Father. He did tell a beautiful story about Jonathon Napela. This story happens to also be told in <a href=\"https:\/\/www.churchofjesuschrist.org\/study\/history\/saints-v2?lang=eng\">Saints, Vol. 2<\/a>. This man\u2019s wife contracted leprosy and was banished to the island of Molokai. Jonathon didn\u2019t want her to be there alone, so he went with her and served not only her, but everyone else in this leprosy colony. It doesn\u2019t seem fair that he ended up dying of leprosy before his wife did. Love is sometimes not fair.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.churchofjesuschrist.org\/study\/general-conference\/1988\/04\/teach-children-the-gospel?lang=eng\">Sister Dwan J. Young<\/a> speaks on parenting. Her focus is on teaching the gospel of Jesus Christ to your children. For some people, this is a touchy subject. For me, this is the only safe way to raise my children. We don\u2019t have to make up the gospel as we go, winging it with every catastrophe. We merely have to point to the scriptures and read about the demands of justice, and tender mercy, already laid out and given to us.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Abinadi and King Noah<\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Which leads us to our <a href=\"https:\/\/www.churchofjesuschrist.org\/manual\/come-follow-me\">Come Follow Me<\/a> reading this week. Abinadi\u2019s explanation of justice and mercy, found in <a href=\"https:\/\/www.churchofjesuschrist.org\/study\/scriptures\/bofm\/mosiah\/15?lang=eng\">Mosiah 15<\/a>, is a great tutoring for guilt-free mothering. Little children just need to be loved with plenty of mercy as they get into innocent trouble. But as a child grows, and enters into covenant making age, a parent (often the mother) has to judge situations as acceptable behavior or not. As my husband and I discussed this, we decided a father is often the disciplinarian (the judge) in the household. The mother often brings in a large amount of mercy to offset the \u201ccruel\u201d judgment. These roles can be reversed. When a mother finally loses her cool and blasts those pesky brats, the father better be around to mercifully cool things down.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">But what happens when there is no father? The mother has to be both justice and mercy. And that is very hard to do. In fact, it is important for both justice and mercy to exist. Parents, together, can act as \u201cprophets\u201d in their own homes, warning and teaching their children the rules in order to be judged correctly. And as the children grow, they fall back on their teachings of imperfectly breaking rules, repenting, and depending on the Savior to grant them mercy.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Seriously, where would we be without Jesus Christ, who grants us so much mercy, if we repent from breaking those rules of justice?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">And then I got to thinking about the mothers of Abinadi and King Noah. What kind of mothers were they? Was one perfect and the other kind of lazy? Probably not. Did they try their best? Likely. Can we praise or blame them for their children\u2019s actions? No.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Guilt-Free Mothering<\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">This earth life isn\u2019t easy. And none of us is perfect. And mothers, especially, want the best for their children. Sometimes we struggle between justice and mercy as we bring up these little monsters. 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